Paul asks: 'I'm 30 years old and been having problems with my hands lately. My grandma has RA and hoping I don't get it. But I already have arthritis in my back from a very bad car accident and now every morning I wake up and my hands hurt bad and I have a hard time grabbing things and can't even open a pop, they get fat and my knuckles get red at night. I'm nervous it's a sign I might be getting RA. I was also told from someone with RA that everyone has the RA gene but not all get it and that a bad accident can make RA flare up?'